What has happened to people-skills?!

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As I see children daily and assess their development, I find many that have not been taught people skills. What happened to looking someone in the eye when talking with them? Where have our manners gone? Technology is definitely a culprit to this. Our children don’t have to interact with others when they can text. Can you imagine what the next generation will be like if we don’t pass these skills on? The following link is a great article on how to teach your child people skills:

http://www.parents.com/kids/development/social/how-to-teach-social-skills/?sssdmh=dm17.901644&esrc=nwpdbk041416

 

Internet and kids

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The internet and media can be a wealth of information!! On the other hand, when used inappropriately can be a nightmare! Locally, we have had new app called Ogle that is a social media app geared for kids to share campus information, but has been used to post mean things about other kids and a bomb threat! This terrifies me! How do you know whoever posted that threat won’t act out on it?! We need to teach our kids proper use of the internet and safety measures. It is too accessible to not address this issue any more. A local school sent an email to parents warning them of the above app and internet safety tips to review with your child. Please consider discussing these tips with your children!!

Here are some helpful hints for parents and families to help support your child from Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham:

1. Never write or forward a photo, or anything in a text, that you wouldn’t want forwarded to everyone in your school, your principal and your parents. Remember that everything you send can become public.

2. Always ask before you forward a text or photo. Be respectful. How would you feel if someone forwarded an unflattering photo of you?

3. Always ask before you take a photo or video. Even once someone has given you permission to take a photo, ask before you post it.

4. If someone asks you to send a “sexy” photo, remember that even with Snapchat (which “evaporates” the photo), the picture can be copied and forwarded to others. Anyone could see it — every kid in the school, your teachers, your parents. It happens all the time to great kids. Just don’t send it. And talk to your parents about it.

5. If you receive an inappropriate photo, immediately delete it from your phone, tell your parents, and block the number so you can’t receive more. Possession or distribution of sexual pictures of people who are underage is illegal. If the person who sent it to you asks why, just say “It’s illegal. Let’s talk instead.”

6. Never post your cell phone number on Facebook or broadcast it beyond your friends (because it leaves you open to stalking.)

7. Never broadcast your location except in a direct text to friends (because it leaves you open to stalking.) Don’t use location apps that post your location.

8. Never respond to numbers you don’t recognize.

9. If you receive an unsolicited text, that’s spam. Don’t click on it. Instead, tell your parents so they can report the problem and have the caller blocked.

10. Don’t download apps without your parents’ permission.

11. Don’t spend your money all in one place.You don’t need web-surfing or ringtones. Get unlimited texts so you don’t have to worry about budgeting.

12. Set up your charging station in the living room so your phone is not in your room at night.

13. Have a life. Don’t feel obligated to respond to texts right away and don’t text until homework is done, during dinner, or after 9 p.m.

14. L8R – Later! If you’re driving, turn off your cell phone and put it in a bag where you can’t reach it in the back seat. (Make sure you have directions before you start out.) Cars kill people.

15. Nothing replaces FtF. If a “friend” sends you a mean message, take a deep breath and turn off your phone.Talk to them the next day, Face to Face, about it. Never say anything via text that you wouldn’t say Face to Face.

Is my child at risk for injury playing baseball?

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Baseball-PlayerBaseball season is starting for many kids as spring approaches. If your child is not playing other sports or conditioning during off season, they could be at risk for injury. Here is a great article about injuries commonly seen with our little league players.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/sports/Pages/Baseball-and-Softball.aspx

The following is a great video by Dr Jordan Metzl that will teach you and your child exercises to help prevent injuries related to baseball.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/sports/Pages/Baseball-Strength-Training-Injury-Prevention.aspx

Kindness

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I turn on the news and I’m bombarded by the horrible things that are going on in the world. Is it just me, or does it seem like things are getting worse?  I can’t help but wonder what kind of world my kids will deal with when they are adults. What has changed since the last generation?

One thing that popped into my mind as I listen to my boys argue is kindness. Are we teaching are children to be kind and compassionate human beings? Are we teaching them to be givers of kindness and not just receivers?

We, as parents, want to do as much as we can to give our kids what we may not have had or a”leg up” in the world. We want our kids to be the best and the brightest in whatever they do, so we work to pay for the best football/baseball equipment, individual lessons, computers/ipads to stimulate their learning, and the list goes on. What have they learned? Take, take, take. That will help you get further in this cutthroat world. In one study, 80 percent of the youth  said their parents were more concerned with their achievement or happiness than whether they cared for others. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/07/18/are-you-raising-nice-kids-a-harvard-psychologist-gives-5-ways-to-raise-them-to-be-kind/. Wow, just wow.

What are we doing to teach them to give? Children inherently love to give to others, but we have taught them to think more about themselves than others.

A study  conducted by researchers from the University of British Columbia and the University of California, Riverside, on several hundred 9-11 year olds found when these children performed at least three acts of kindness a week, they had significantly increased feelings of happiness and satisfaction. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-moment-youth/201301/acts-kindness-key-happiness-children-teens. Not only did they feel better about themselves, but these kids found they were more liked and accepted by their peers. In turn, this also decreased bullying behaviors and increased academic achievements.

So how do we help are children be responsible, moral, and caring? Make caring for others a priority. That includes honoring commitments even when it doesn’t make them happy , addressing others respectfully even when they are tired or angry. Provide opportunities for them to practice caring and gratitude. Make gratitude a daily ritual in big and small ways. Expand your child’s circle of concern. Not only should they be caring to their immediate family and friends, but look for opportunities to care about someone outside their immediate circle, such as talking with a new student.

There are so many ways we can help our kids show acts of kindness, big or small. Here is a list of some great ideas. http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/positive/teaching-kids-to-be-kind/?sssdmh=dm17.869745&esrc=nwpdbk012616.

Imagine what our world would be like if we made this our focus for our children.

Let this be our mantra. Instead of saying “The most important thing is that you’re happy,” say “The most important thing is that you’re kind.”

 

 

anxiety in children

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Some children have a tough time coping with stressful situations. They may respond in their behavior by acting out, complain of stomachaches, headaches, etc. We as parents need to stop and address what the root of the problem is. If you have an anxious child, you may find this well written article very helpful.

http://loveandmarriageblog.com/

RSV

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Yes, RSV season has begun!! Don’t let this 3 letter acronym scare you, though! We have gotten much better at catching it and treating it! Here is a great article to read about it.

http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/six-things-every-parent-should-know-about-rsv/?utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&utm_campaign=six-things-every-parent-should-know-about-rsv-facebook&utm_term=six-things-every-parent-should-know-about-rsv&utm_content=newsroom

Tea Tree oil for head lice?

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Ive had the question asked, “Does tea tree oil help with treat lice?”

Well, American Academy of Pediatrics published a study on this.

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/857444?nlid=97831_454&src=wnl_edit_medn_peds&uac=136000HT&spon=9&impID=970220&faf=1

Bottom line, tea tree oil may not be a reliable treatment for head lice but does show evidence to be a good repellent. It doesn’t seem to be as effective in suffocating unhatched lice as do products with 1% permethrin.

With this information, I might be willing to use tea tree oil once a week as a preventative. It is also known to help with dry flaky scalp!!